For a moment, I thought...

For a moment I thought it happened...but the practical side of me chose to clarify things with Hun before jumping into any conclusions. I'm glad I did cos it was a misunderstanding...and quite a funny one in fact!

When everything was clear, and Hun teased me about it, I cried...not sure why I cried...but I just did. Perhaps it was tears of relief? Know when you been through some emotional upheaval, you are quite stunned for any emotions at the point in time, but when everything is over you just break down? I guess that was what I was feeling then...

It's quite funny now looking back at the incident...haha...whoever the other "same name" was...u sure almost landed us in a potential fight!

Hun: Maybe u should seriously consider using "H-Pot" next time....hahaha....

Hmm...but if something like this were to happen for real to either of us...would our relationship stand the test? Once again, I'm reminded about the sanctity of marriage and the wedding vows. It's what will keep a husband-wife relationship going even through tough times...it's a promise made to each other, not feelings at all...

Mothers' clothings...

The wedding preps stresses are starting to show....in it's least expected form....our mothers' dressed for the evening!! Fathers and brother no problem...cos for guys, they can't go too far wrong with coats and ties..the only challenge is finding the right size.

But for the womenfolk....ho ho ho....it's a different ballgame altogether : Some general rules which I think I have for mothers of the bride and groom:

1. They can't look less formal or less glam than the guests...they should be looking the best, alongside with the wedding couple (me and Hun!! yeah!)
2. They have to feel happy and glam themselves! And they have to feel that this is the prettiest outfit they ever wore in their life (esxcept the wedding gown of course!)
3. Between the 2 mothers, they have to look just as good! (now, you don't want the guests to compare and say whose mother look better than whose mother...and there are bound to be such guests. I tend to do that myself, so I know.)
4. Most importantly, it's something they are comfortable to wear.

For our case, our mothers have already bought their respective clothes. Since we were not able to choose it together with them....we are trying to make improvements on their choices so that they can fit into the 4 golden rules above...AND IT'S NOT EASY AT ALL!!!

Why can't we just let them wear what they like..."as long as they are happy"? Because I am a woman myself...and I know that being happy with a dress you bought doesn't mean you are happy with it forever. You may be in love with it, but if someone criticizes it or makes a negative remark about it...you may feel a sudden dislike towards that. For them to be truly happy with their dress, it has to be something which when others see it, their first reaction is "Wow, you look really good in this dress!". Conversely, the worse comment a woman can receive about her clothings is "Why is she wearing this?"

So much work has to be done to pre-empt such unpleasant things from happening. Afterall, it's a once in a life time thing for all of us...I want them to be happy...especially the mothers...cos it's one of the rare occassions which they are also the stars of the evening and have the right to doll themselves up and look great! So all efforts taken to prevent any unpleasanties will be worth it!!

Of course it has to be done with much care...we wouldn't want the mothers to feel that their own shopping efforts are wasted...so we have to try to make minimal changes with the maximun effect. I think watching more Dive on a Dime + divine wisdom in picking the right clothes will go a long way! God help us!

From the beginning...

As I was writing a post on my main blog titled "Reaping what you sow", just felt so felt so thankful for the relationship that I share with Hun now. Not sure if I have ever blogged about how we started...hmm...for those who know us, perhaps this will be interesting to you...haha!

The year was 2003...I first met Hun in church in end Jan/beginning Feb. He popped by youth service one saturday and I saw him near the water dispenser. Being a youth leader then, and seeing that he was around my age, thought I went up to him to say hi and try to make him feel comfortable. Vaguely remembered that I told him I am a social worker, and he told me he was a volunteer and in NVPC. That struck a chord with me...cos he's the first volunteer guy friend whom I know.

Somehow, I got his contact and started invite him for our youth activites. Was also thinking it was a good thing to rope him into youth as we really needed a male leader then. Then somehow along the way, I found out that he's a biker and he's taking a test for boat license too...and I thought "Wow, this guy is so cool!". Ok, I know I sound bimbo-istic, but I really thought he was cool and started to have a crush on him ok? So you can say, what attracted me to Hun first was his abilities to ride a bike and boat. Was thinking that if he was my boyfriend, we could go out on trips to the sea in a speed boat, how romantic! (incidentally, till today, the only boat I've been on with him is the bunk boat we take to go Pulau Ubin... =)

By chance or divine plan, I learned that he stays in Yishun, where I used to work. We started chatting more, went out for dinner a few times...I invited him to cell, he started to fetch me after work to cell, and to youth outings on sat (I was still working on sats then and he jus got out of army not long and lobo-ing around as he was planning to go London). Think it was through all these that I started to find myself liking him more, was not sure about him though, but since I thought he was so nice to me, maybe he liked me too...

During the times before we were together, I felt I've done incredible things...I have sat in his father's cab with his mom and elder brother too!! And he came to fetch me after work...all my colleagues were teasing me after that lor! We went to a special church service and appear together macham like whole family like that.

Then on 2 April 2003, we went for a movie..."Tears of the Sun"...this is the only movie which I have watched and don't remember the storyline except that it's about war and acted by Bruce Willis. Why? Cos before the movie started, Hun offered to "hold my hand" if I'm cold. (Guys, take note. Good move...gets you your girl) I was thinking "yeah right!", but yet part of me felt that he was really just being friendly, and don't mean anything else. Frankly, we did hold hands "because I was cold"...and well, I felt good but not like I'm sure he likes me or anything...until the point when he reached for my hand when I didn't say I was cold...that made my heart jump! (until today Hun claims it was jus a friendly gesture...but i believe otherwise...and will continue to think this way. But it doesn't matter now lah...haha)

After the movie, he offered to fetch me back, but someone called him to wanna meet him...it was someone who meant very much to him. So I told him it's ok and I'll go back on my own. Guess he must have felt guilty and called me a few times after that. But I didn't pick up the phone cos I was bathing mah. Hun thought I was angry (until today I'm still laughing about it...cos I didn't pick up the phone but my mom did!!). We did manage to chat that night....and he dropped me many hints which were so freaking obvious that they shouldn't be classified as hints anymore! (details are left out to protect whoever the conversation involved, obviously it wasn't jus me and Hun). Anyway, the phone call ended in vagueness...which I super cannot tolerate! Having past experiences of liking someone, I've learned that it's better to get and answer and get over it than to remain in uncertainty. I can accept if you tell me you don't like me..I can move on one...I just don't like to drag things.

So, the very next morning, I messaged him, telling him that I liked him :) (applause please! I know I'm one brave girl! haha...*haolian* btw, Hun still keeps the 2 smses as proof till today. Changed his phone twice liao, but the sms-es still there ok?! Once in a while he'll flash it and attempt to make me blush!) Well, we met up at night...and after talking for about 15mins?? dun really remember how long...we decided to give it a try...despite knowing that in 3 months time, he'll be flying to London for 7 months for his studies.

Well, 3 April 2003 marks the day we started on this journey as a couple. 4 years later on 5 May 2007, we would have reached a milestone...we'll be closing our chapter for our courtship and beginning a new one for a life together.

This song by Shania Twain sums it all up:

(when I first saw you, I saw love.

and the First time you touched me, I felt love.

and After all this time, youre still the one I love.)

Looks like we made it

Look how far we've come my baby

We mighta took the long way

We knew we'd get there someday

They said, i bet they'll never make it

But just look at us holding on

We're still together still going strong

You're still the one I run to

The one that I belong to

You're still the one I want for life

You're still the one that I love

The only one I dream of

You're still the one I kiss good night

Ain't nothin better

We beat the odds together

I'm glad we didn't listen

Look at what we would be missin

I'm so glad we made it

Look how far we've come my baby

Yup, we've come a long way...thank God for preserving us and our love. Thank God we dared to start, thank God we persisted through all the challenges we faced. I must say we are both quite different from who we were when we first started, but we have also learned to love beyond liking and love in bad times. Thank God that all the struggles we faced did not tear us down, but strenghted us and helped us grow.

Thanks you darling for persisting and always loving me. As 5 May draws closer, I'm really getting excited day by day.

To the rest of you, thanks for taking time to read this :) Hope u enjoyed reading as much as I did typing!