Mothers' clothings...

The wedding preps stresses are starting to show....in it's least expected form....our mothers' dressed for the evening!! Fathers and brother no problem...cos for guys, they can't go too far wrong with coats and ties..the only challenge is finding the right size.

But for the womenfolk....ho ho ho....it's a different ballgame altogether : Some general rules which I think I have for mothers of the bride and groom:

1. They can't look less formal or less glam than the guests...they should be looking the best, alongside with the wedding couple (me and Hun!! yeah!)
2. They have to feel happy and glam themselves! And they have to feel that this is the prettiest outfit they ever wore in their life (esxcept the wedding gown of course!)
3. Between the 2 mothers, they have to look just as good! (now, you don't want the guests to compare and say whose mother look better than whose mother...and there are bound to be such guests. I tend to do that myself, so I know.)
4. Most importantly, it's something they are comfortable to wear.

For our case, our mothers have already bought their respective clothes. Since we were not able to choose it together with them....we are trying to make improvements on their choices so that they can fit into the 4 golden rules above...AND IT'S NOT EASY AT ALL!!!

Why can't we just let them wear what they like..."as long as they are happy"? Because I am a woman myself...and I know that being happy with a dress you bought doesn't mean you are happy with it forever. You may be in love with it, but if someone criticizes it or makes a negative remark about it...you may feel a sudden dislike towards that. For them to be truly happy with their dress, it has to be something which when others see it, their first reaction is "Wow, you look really good in this dress!". Conversely, the worse comment a woman can receive about her clothings is "Why is she wearing this?"

So much work has to be done to pre-empt such unpleasant things from happening. Afterall, it's a once in a life time thing for all of us...I want them to be happy...especially the mothers...cos it's one of the rare occassions which they are also the stars of the evening and have the right to doll themselves up and look great! So all efforts taken to prevent any unpleasanties will be worth it!!

Of course it has to be done with much care...we wouldn't want the mothers to feel that their own shopping efforts are wasted...so we have to try to make minimal changes with the maximun effect. I think watching more Dive on a Dime + divine wisdom in picking the right clothes will go a long way! God help us!