Wedding Stress...

Undeniably, I'm stressed about the wedding. Not that I wasn't stressed previously, but previously the stress comes from the preparation and what we have to do.

This time it's different. It's the emotional stress of this whole event. It's not easy playing a supporting role I tell you...cos you have to support 2 persons, the one you're supporting and yourself too. So all you gals out there who are stressing about your wedding, remember to always thank God for the good health and well-being of all your family members and your partner's family members too!

Why the stress? I guess it comes from repeatedly reminding yourself of the situation now and how it's not the time to give in to your own temper tantrums or expect your partner to give in to you. It's the pains of learning to manage your own emotions so that you can truly be a support and not a liability to your partner in his time of need.

It's a painful and often lonely place to be. Knowing that you are giving so much more than before but telling yourself that not to expect returns...and not getting upset with him about it. You think you are suffering? Think about him...he's not any better, if not in a worse situation than you are in. But always remind yourself to see the efforts that he is still putting in to love you as best as he can though he's in pain. And learning to overlook slip-ups from him. He's not perfect, and you just gotta accept that! No point letting something small trigger a big reaction.

Assure him as much as you can that he has your permission to take his time to do the things he need to to. Learning to let go perhaps? Yes, you'll feel the loss, but that's temporary. Remind yourself that perhaps years from now when you look back, you'll be glad you gave him space, and he'll surely appreciate you for it too.

He's also learning...and I see his growth. He's learned to handle multiple stresses at the same time, and learning to see the needs of others through his own pain. And he's learnt to appreciate his loved ones even more! And in brief moments, tho we seem to be letting go of each other more, we also seem to be loving each other more...in actions, not just words.

It's a learning journey...perhaps we just had to learn it earlier than others. But again, if I had a chance to decide, I wouldn't want my wedding preps any other way.

Look on the bright side.....it's a storm we're facing, with Christ in it. Not everyone has a chance to weather such a storm and learn from it. It's a precious lesson from God. After the storm comes the rainbow...only if I hang on all the way till the storm blows over. And that's what I'll do! I certainly don't wanna go through all this heartache and pain for nothing! I'll make sure I get something good out of it :)